Evidence of Forgiveness

As I have come through the deep gloom of my early childhood, I find it possible to thrive.

I resented and feared what my abusers had done to me, but I am finding my freedom anyway.

As I viewed their later lives, I wondered how there could be any good waiting for them.

That is how I am beginning to understand forgiveness.

Our HIgher Power knows what we are underneath all the layers of bad, or even good, behavior.

We are seen in that original Light no matter what practices we have taken on for ourselves.

Yielding to temptation, finding pleasure in cruelty, all disappear and are replaced as the person desires to reform.

The ability to reform, to become something different, is a result of the power of forgiveness from our Higher Power.

The corresponding portion is the ability to be released from despair and fear on the part of the victim.

As we see ourselves in a stronger light, our ability to overcome and to surpass our obstacles results in our own freedom.

I never could understand how that worked.

But now I am getting a glimpse.

The desire to be better brings in a different view and corresponding actions.

No one is lost, neither perpetrator nor victims.

It is up to us to take individual responsibility for finding the solution for ourselves.

As we seek out the solution, resources will come to our aid.

Authors, workshop leaders, therapists, friends, all help us on our healing path.

It is our desire, whether victim or perpetrator, which starts us on the path to healing.

This is how I understand and see evidence of forgiveness.

© 2019 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com 

Naming the Lie

“I believe you have put the wrong name on that package!”

When you realize that what you are hearing and feeling is a lie, you can name its owner and send it back.

It is someone else’s viewpoint.

It does not belong to you.

I identify strongly with loving myself so when I feel bad, I recognize it as something from my past.

A lie is anything negative about you, i.e. your personality, your actions, and is always about its source.

Not you!

Once you name where it is coming from, you are free to go on with your feeling of happiness.

You self-validate when you remember who you are and get on with what you were doing.

The qualities you cultivate when you commit to doing what you love to do are supportive of your best self.

You are part and parcel of all the good things which you know about yourself.

Someone with low convictions about themselves may try to put some of their negativity on others, but you can brush it off quickly.

You belong in the beautiful surroundings you attract to yourself.

You have a right to enjoy positive friendships which support you.

No matter who the lie attaches itself to, even a good friend or a relative, it belongs to them, not to you.

You continue taking your steps in the direction you choose.

You enjoy your new associations and partnerships.

You enjoy your new friends and your new clients.

You live in the conscious activity of loving what you do.

You are surrounded by all those who love you and what you do, too.

© 2019 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com 

Compassion Means the Most to Me

The most deeply moving stories of compassion are what inspire me.

I am so touched by those who have the ability to reach out and provide comfort.

When I realize the profound uplfiting effect of such actions, I am grateful.

Such actions counter the great selfishness we see in so many so-called leaders.

Our true leaders are those who are insightful and compassionate.

They share their joy with others in meaningful ways.

Small and gentle actions reach people where they are and give them a sense of being visible and cared for.

Such comfort and compassion breaks their isolation.

The innocence which leads such acts of compassion is powerful.

It shows all of us that little steps and small actions are effective.

Our presence in the world gives us many opportunities for compassion.

As we begin to listen for the ideas which uplift us, we are led to share our compassion.

Being receptive to ideas to hep others enables us to recieve the help we need.

We are all togehter in a world of our own creating.

We can create more compassion.

© 2019 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedchersiehdadored.blogspot.com 

Healing Over the Wounds

Even though you are operating well enough in your daily life, you may be dealing with old wounds.

Everything you bring into your life can bring healing to these wounds.

As you commit to loving yourself and to discovering what you love to do, you will begin to provide a nurturing atmopshere for yourself.

Since you deserve to live without pain, you can build a new foundation for yourself.

Immerse yourself in loving statements about who you are.

Feel the presence of being loved, cherished, and adored.

Watch for what is beautiful in your life.

Call it to your attention.

Spend time thinking about what you love.

Let uplifting thoughts trickle into consciusness wherever you are.

Notice what is beautiful and harmonious.

Give compliments.

As you discover what you love and continually include it in your life, you will displace and replace the old wounding messages.

You are here to be uplifted and inspired.

You are here to be embraced and cherished.

You are here to be recognized and appreciated.

This is your great role in the world.

As you heal, your story will uplift others.

This is yor legacy and your service.

You can be healed and be an uplifting influence for others.

© 2019 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com

Sorting Through the Miasma

With so much new freedom and happiness through my healing, it is a definite contrast for me to deal with heaviness.

As I sorted through the heavy feeling, I found it was a reaction to doing a particular project.

I have freely chosen the project, but there was heaviness, and dread.

As I isolated my feelings around this project, I saw that it was one more reaction to the past.

I no longer have to contend with the jealousy and negativity of the past.

I now allow myself to do the things I want to do.

I give myself complete permission to enjoy everything I do.

I embrace my creativity and happiness.

I spend the whole day doing the things I love.

With this knowledge, I moved into action and got started on my project.

I am grateful to have built a new foundtion for my life through many tiny steps.

The tiny steps have made it possible to move forward.

Tiny steps are so small, almost no one notices.

I feel the motion, though.

After many tiny steps are taken, the result of the action becomes visible.

Tiny steps are one of the ways I sort through the miasma of bad feeling.

I am alerted to it through memories of past negativity.

Now that I fill my days with doing what I love, I notice the contrast.

I can redirect my thought and take action.

I am conscious and mindful of what is going on in my life.

I am grateful for the power this gives me to shape my own life in a positive manner.

© 2019 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com 

Staying Faithful to Your Vision

Once you discern your purpose, your faithfulness will bring you more than you can imagine.

As I take my tiny steps to establish my foundation, I can feel some of what is building on it.

The more steps I take, I feel the vision filling out more completely.

As I take the final (?) step, I am overwhelmed by the happiness which moves into place.

I know there will always be more steps, but this one feels as though it completes an important part of my life-puzzle.

I am moved into deep calm and peace.

I feel the fruits of my faithfulness.

I have not been distracted.

I have kept myself on the track which has been revealed to me through many steps of healing.

I feel the substance and shape of what is to come.

I am beginning to see the results on the outside as well as through inner vision.

My consistency and refusal to give up has given me a rock-solid foundation.

I hae absolute confidence in my ability to continue to build on my new foundation.

Thre tremendous volume of work which I have created throughout my healing is gaining an outlet.

It will be able to bless others who are ready to do their own healing work.

I am blessed through my vision and so are so many others.

I am grateful for the sense of purpose which continues to move through me as I listen within and take outward steps of action.

I am grateful for the resources which continue to show up in exactly the right way for me as I stay faithful to my vision.

I am here, and it is enough.

© 2019 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com 

The Beauty of One's Own True Path

There is a power and a beauty of staying on one’s own true path.

Once you discover it and feel the difference it makes in your life, it continually pulls you back on track.

There may be many distractions, but there is no comparison for deep authenticity.

I feel most fulfilled, whole, complete, satisfied, happy, joyous when I am immersed in carrying out my purpose.

Even my tiny steps are full of joy.

I can feel the security of the new foundation I am building.

With tiny steps, there are no gaps.

Each tiny step is infused with trust and commitment.

Each tiny step finds support and guidance and fulfillment.

The thousands of tiny steps which are healing me are connecting down to heal the most minute hurt.

Nothing is being left out in this comprehensive and gentle healing process.

I am not able to proceed until everything is in place.

That is when the next tiny step appears along my true path.

Each tiny step opens onto its own wide vista.

The work I am doing carries me along my own true path in an uplifting manner.

My work increases in effectiveness.

I feel the presence of my good work as I put my ideas into action.

The happiness and calm I feel each day informs me that I am on my own true path.

© 2019 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com 

The Womanhood of Sue Monk Kidd

In her books, Sue Monk Kidd explores how women come to self-knowlege.

She discusses her own awareness of leaving the pervasive influence of patriarchy in “Dance of the Dissendent Daughter”.

One of he most telling moments for me is when she discusses her research about what was included in the Bible.

About twenty-rive hundred years ago, the decision was made not to include the contributions which women were making at the time Christianity was appearing.

I was struck with the huge difference that would have made in today’s society if women were considered valued and equal contributors for the last twenty-five hundred years.

“The Secret Life of Bees”, Kidd’s first novel, deals with a teen girl’s discovery about her life and the life of her mother.

Kidd explores the connection of the “Black Madonna” and its revitalizing spirit in the life of those communities who acknowledge her.

“The Mermaid’s Chair” deals with a woman’s discovery about an event which changed her life as a child and how deeper revelation about it changes her life later as a mature woman.

The book Kidd wrote with her daughter, Amy, “Traveling with Pomegranates” has accounts from each of them in responses to their own self-exploration while visiting sites in Greece.

“The Invention of Wings” looks at a period a few decades before the Civil War, in which a black woman and a white woman discover their purpose and their freedom.

In reading each of these books, I was drawn into considertion of my own role as a woman at various times and in various settings.

I have had to find my freedom from the influence of my father.

I have discovered my own and my mother’s strengths and weaknesses in protecting me.

I have found the revitalizing spirit in my own life through various workshops and authors.

I have been exploring and finding my purpose and the deeper meaning for my life.

Once again, I am extremely grateful for the courage of women to articulate the path to their sources of strength.

I expecially appreciate the many ways presented with Sue Monk Kidd’s insight.

© 2019 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com 

Inner and Outer Organization

As I follow my priorities from within, I am able to organize my surroundings.

I discover what I need and what I am ready to release.

I find myself doing things in an unplanned, but effective, order.

I am willing to move forward in a different way.

I feel surrounded by comfort, having only what I need.

My relationships are better; I have time for others.

As I organize, I inspire it in others.

I am able to support the needs of others, because I am no longer overwhelmed by my own.

The peace I agree to within, expresses itself on the outside.

My wholeness is restful.

I agree to release what is holding me back.

I move forward freely.

Those who can support me appear.

I willingly accept their support.

I am able to take steps which used to be difficult for me.

i encounter good results.

As I heal, I find I am growing in service to others.

I move deeper and see myself more clearly.

I find teachers for skills I have wanted to learn.

My desires from within find fulfillment.

I sense the presence of those who desire to receive my gifts.

I am gently urged forward.

My inner release finds fulfillment in accomplishing what is most important to me.

© 2019 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com 

Continual Renaming

It is often necessary to reassert my identity.

Otherwise, I get renamed by popular culture.

As I affirm who I am and what I do, I am renaming myself according to my sense of deep purpose.

As I continue along my path, I release some of the things which used to be important to me.

I make room for things which are new.

I am ready to do different things or to do them in a new way.

My constant assessment of where I am allows me to get an accurate picture of my identity.

As long as I am on my own path, I know who I am.

When I experience any confusion, I know that I have deviated off my path.

I can always tell when I am aligned with my purpose and action.

Things move with a natural flow.

Resources come to me effortlessly.

I am able to take steps in an orderly way.

Continually renaming myself in accord with my purpose allows me to sort out what belongs in my day and what does not.

It defines the projects I am working on clearly.

Progress becomes evident.

I feel satisfied and fulfilled.

I feel my alignment between purpose and action.

I create a flow of happiness for myself when I rename myself correctly.

I love fulfilling my purpose and expressing my high ideals.

I am in a good place when I feel everything working together.

I love who I am and what I do.

My continual process of evaluation allows me to rename myself when neccesary to remain in alignment with my goals.

© 2019 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com 

Getting Used to Happiness

My experience of happiness keeps growing and growing.

I am finding more places to be happy and more ways of finding and expressing happiness.

By creating opportunities to do what I love, I am sharing my happiness.

It is a privilege to feel the presence of happiness becoming so prevalent in my life.

As I look at the distance I have come from a tense and anxious life to one where I can choose to be calm and creative, I am very grateful.

I am living in an atmosphere of upliftment and inspiration.

I am prepared to make room for space to express the wonderful ideas which come to me.

I am grateful to spend the time it takes to listen and to act.

I am grateful for the friends and support which I receive wherever I go.

In new situations, opportunities for well-being are provided.

I a always surrounded by beauty and resources.

I experience a feeling of harmony everywhere.

My well-being depends on my practice of listening within.

In the quiet of my inward thoughts, I listen for direction and I receive it.

I am given clear guidane to know what to do and to do it.

Step by tiny step, I arrive at my goal.

I am always in the right place at the right time.

I am able to discard any interference or disturbance.

I am able to discern what belongs in my path and what does not belong there.

I take my tiny steps as i build my foundation for service.

I am creating an organization for outreach.

My firm foundation expands as I receive new ideas for sharing inspiration and peace.

It is my privilege to listen and to receive ideas and to act on them as my experience of happiness overflows.

© 2019 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com