Wednesday, February 27, 2013

My Story That I Am Creating

I can create a story that makes sense to me.

A good story.

I can create a life that compels me to contribute in every way.

All the steps are showing up as I am ready.

The knowledge, the teachers, the “stuff”.

I can be patient and enjoy the whole process.

I cannot speed it up; I cannot slow it down.

I am part of the story I am creating.

I love my story so much that I am creating.

It is a story of growth and progress, of innocence and power.

It is a happy story of success, because I love it so much.

I love being in this story.

It is a story of my own creation.

I make it up.

I make up everything in it.

I make up the products, the projects, the customers, the satisfaction, the happiness.

It is a good and prosperous and useful and loving story.

I love my story.

© 2013 Kathryn Hardage

Sunday, February 24, 2013

Meltdown, So What?

It’s OK.

It’s OK to have a meltdown.

It shows how far you have come.

So what if the trigger got activated.

It did.

And the meltdown happened and it was short-lived.

Calming down will not take the several years it originally took to figure it all out the first time.

Calming down has a goal and a success rate and a place of resolution and from there, even further progress.

Calming down includes having some more tools and techniques in the arsenal than during the original several years’ process.

Calming down is happening.

It is a process all along the way.

A meltdown?


© 2013 Kathryn Hardage

Saturday, February 23, 2013

How I Am Safe

I carry my own safety net with me.

I surround myself with safety.

My safety is from within.

I choose how I view people regardless of what they have done or what they have done to me.

I surround myself with my own thoughts.

Other people’s projections, even their direct actions are subject to my interpretations and therefore my reactions.

I choose to see cruelty as the result of bullying they received.

Bullies did not have sufficient resources to halt bad effects in their own lives.

It spilled over onto people they bullied.

I do not have to pass it on.

I can choose another way to look at the situation and replace the feelings they are acting out with something better and more productive.

This is how it stops.

This is one of the ways I create safety around me.

© 2013 Kathryn Hardage

Tuesday, February 19, 2013

On Being Yourself


I have just read about the “Multiplicity of Living Patterns” in Christopher Alexander’s book, The Timeless Way of Building.

He describes how the inharmony in one pattern causes imbalance in the next and the next and so on.

When we find the balance in being ourselves, it contributes to the harmony in us, and in all the situations and people we encounter.

I experienced this in the simplest of all acts, that of planning my day.

As I mentally listed what I wanted to do, I found that it was all in the wrong order.

When I rearranged the order, there was no conflict.

While I was trying to make it work, I had so much tension going on in my body, I could not make it go forward.

When I rearranged the order, all contingencies were covered, and my body relaxed.

I can’t tell you all the times I have overridden my feelings in order to carry out a prescribed course of action.

After reading Christopher Alexander’s observations, I realize that it is not just a convenience to feel good and calm about how I go about things.

It has a domino effect on everything that follows after.

© 2013 Kathryn Hardage