Stay in Your Zone

Do not let the holidays take you out of your zone.

You have created the best situation for yourself during the rest of the year.

Continue to stay in your optimum zone.

Recognize your origins but do not be overly loyal to them.

Part of what they gave you was what you needed to overcome in order to create harmony and order and prosperity for yourself.

Wherever you are supported you are safe.

Wherever you are attacked, you are not safe.

Stay where you are safe, in your zone.

Whatever contact you need to make with family, make sure you keep yourself safe.

If you have overwhelming negative memories, you do not need to spend much time at all with the people who created them.

You live with yourself first, so create the environment where you feel loved, cherished and adored, and don’t leave it if at all possible.

Always return as quickly as possible.

You need your mind and heart and soul to be happy to do your best work.

You are here to uplift and to be uplifted.

You do not have to waste your time recovering if you do not let down your guard over a false loyalty to family.

Stay loyal to your best sense of yourself.

Respect the effort it took to get yourself to this uplifted and safe state of mind.

Never leave it.

© 2017 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com 

Courage Within and Without

Today, I took my courage in both hands and and addressed a weird situation that has been going on for some time.

As I have separated out the first and secondary issues in my life, a recurring one stood in stark contrast.

I was finally led to address it as a case of being hypnotized to react in a certain way.

I looked up ways to “de-hypnotize” myself and found that it has to do with practicing continuing mindfulness and awareness.

I addressed the first symptom and declared my right to behave in a normal way.

That worked for the first part of my activity.

Then I looked at my next symptom, and addressed it.

I spent the entire night each time I awoke making sure that I addressed the specific symptom and behavior.

The next day, I asked my husband to be with me while I performed the activity.

I got farther along with it, and then found myself reacting further.

So I took a break and addressed the third aspect of my reaction.

I was able to complete the activity.

I find this a very interesting case for myself.

I have been thinking about the other things I find myself reacting to, although in less extreme ways.

What are the ways in which we are hypnotized by society’s norms to think we can or cannot do certain things?

What are the ways in which we work against ourselves over political and economic issues?

The immense power of the media to do good or to create negative influence in our lives is a kind of hypnotism.

It is good to remain mindful and aware of this  power and to be careful we are thinking our own thoughts to the best benefit of ourselves and our communities.

I am so grateful for the teachers and counselors and workshop leaders and writers who keep sharing their knowledge to benefit all of us.

© 2017 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedchersiehdadored.blogspot.com 

Joy of New Identity

As I continue to work through the layers of healing, I am so happy to notice the great distance between what I was raised to be and what I am establishing for myself.

My husband has begun hanging my quilts and small fabric art pieces on the walls of my studio.

I am so comforted to see evidence of what I love to do, what I have chosen for myself.

During this time of year, I am hit once again with painful memories, but I have learned what it is like to live as the person I love to be.

As I am pulling myself out of the habitual holiday downward spiral, I find myself surrounded with friends who like to do what I like, spinners, weavers, quilters, knitters.

We are sharing new skills and new accomplishments and appreciating one another’s efforts.

I am still establishing new habits of enjoyment for myself, but these can become more and more automatic the longer I do what I love.

It is a new kind of work, consciously establishing an identity for myself, one that I choose.

My new identity is not shaped by where I happened to be.

It is shaped by all the new activities I am doing, and the new people who surround me as we all do things we love.

It is a great atmosphere.

I am so very grateful I made the immense effort to reestablish myself in a beautiful part of the country, doing things I love.

© 2017 KathrynHardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com 

Releasing the Panic

I am here, now.

I am feeling the sensations of a memory.

I can breathe deeply and slow down my thoughts.

What am I actually thinking?

I am in a safe place.

All is well.

I have control over the environments where I place myself.

I can tell the difference between a friend and an enemy.

I have good friends.

They have grown up through their many trials.

We are on the same page.

I can get help, any kind of help, when I need it.

I am in a good place.

I am calm.

I am safe.

I am happy.

© 2017 Kathryn Hardage

www.lovedcherishedadored.blogspot.com