Beware of being bombarded.
When you feel justified over a non-working relationship, it may be that you have simply gotten used to being bombarded.
If someone else has their own interests at heart, rather than yours, you may find yourself frequently, or always, doing what pleases them.
It may estrange you from someone else who loves you deeply.
I can promise you that their love will always be there for you.
But once you grow up and actually question yourself about the relationship, you may find that you are really just returning to the most familiar feeling you have.
And it may not be your own.
This often happens when people have been lied to.
They continue the lie for themselves.
Until one day they wake up and look around and ask why they have been thinking and believing and behaving in a particular way.
It may not have been something they would ever choose for themselves.
Since it got started so young, or so early in the relationship, they were simply never aware of anything else.
Another way non-functioning relationships are perpetuated is through selfishness.
The love may be there from another party, but because the familiarity of dealing with only one is so prevalent, the other party is habitually dismissed.
Once again, believe me when I tell you the love is there.
But you are going to have to discover your own identity in order to be able to see it.
And then, you are going to have to decide if you are grown up enough to discover it for yourself.
© 2014 Kathryn Hardage